Our reader profile continues this week and we shine the spotlight on YMag regular reader, Ele Brown.
Ele’s story of overcoming domestic violence and abuse, is inspirational and you’ll love her beautifully poetic words she would tell her younger self
You Love YMag because?
It’s a magazine you never want to throw away. I keep my copies of YMag on my coffee table, for those days I need inspiration my YMag is there to inspire me. Whether it be the success stories, activities or beautiful quotes, with my cup of coffee and YMag it starts my day.
Your favourite part of YMag is?
The people sharing their Y, success stories, businesses, the struggles they have been through to get to where they are now. I love to read about people “Living their Y” and being their real authentic, inspiring and empowering selves. It touches your heart and inspires you to live your dreams.
What inspires you?
My Mantra is: “I choose to live by choice, not by chance; to make changes, not excuses; to be motivated, not manipulated; to be useful not used; to excel not compete. I choose self esteem, not self pity. I choose to listen to my inner voice, not the random opinions of other’s”.
Courage is something that drives me and inspires me when I see that in people. Friendship also inspires me and being exposed to beautiful things, whether it’s a walk along the beach or in a gallery.
You step outside and find a lottery ticket that ends up winning $10 million. What would you do?
Firstly I would be pretty excited, overwhelmed and grateful.
I would then probably:
– Travel the world with my Friends
– Donate to Charity
– Create an organisation dedicated to help women and children who are rebuilding their lives after escaping domestic violence and abusive situations to make their dreams happen and provide a safe haven.
If you could go back five years, what advice would you give your younger self?
You are not your age, nor the size of your clothes you wear, you are not your weight, or the colour of your hair. You are not your name, or the dimples in your cheeks. You are all the books you read, and all the words you speak, and the smiles you try to hide. You’re the sweetness in your laughter, and every tear you’ve cried, you are the songs you sing so loudly, when you know you are all alone. You’re the places that you’ve been to, and the one that you call home. You’re the things that you believe in, and the people that you love. You’re the photos in your bedroom, and the future you dream of. You’re made of so much beauty. Believe in yourself and…live your dreams.
What is the most courageous thing you’ve ever done?
Surviving domestic violence twice in my life. It is something that is hard to talk about being once a victim of abusive and violence. Most of my life thus far, I struggled with accepting my past and it was nearly impossible for me to trust anyone. Enduring something so painful emotionally, mentally and physically, is unexplainable and has taken a long time to discuss.
Abuse does not define someone, and I’ve finally realised it does not define me. Through it all, I learned it is ok to grieve, it is okay to be upset or angry, it is okay to reach out for help whenever needed. Crying does not make you weak, going to see a counselor does not make your abusers win, being angry and sad does not make you lesser of a person.
Getting help is you being strong, it is you starting to accept the awful things that happened to you, it is you starting to heal. Life goes on, people still love you regardless of what you have gone through, and everything gets better with time and healing.
“Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.”
What personal development activities do you regularly do?
And finally, what activity nourishes your soul?
For me, there’s nothing better than activities that nourish my mind, body and soul, including: